Yep, that I is me. I am guilty of doing all these things to my husband...
I have a problem with not knowing when to just be quiet. I have an issue with letting him be accurate (and sometimes inaccurate) at explaining sequence of events or giving directions to a particular place we're trying to get to. I think I know it all and that in turn makes him feel like he doesn't. Yes, I have this problem and I know I'm not alone.
There are too many divorces going on in this world today and not taming the tongue is one of the leading causes of break-ups and divorces. So I have desperately tried working on this and I must say I am succeeding. How many of you remember that line from the Bible, "life and death lies in the power of our tongue?" Well, if you go to church or have an elderly person in your family, this won't be the first or last time you'll hear anything about watching what comes out of your mouth. I've learned that we have to be careful with the way we say things--to ourselves and to others, and because this is so important, I've come up with 5 ways that will guarantee a tamed tongue.
- Control the Tongue--When you control the words that are coming out of your mouth, you essentially grasp the notion of controlling your life. If you start speaking in integrity, you'll eventually start walking in integrity too.
- Be Respectful of Others--It is much easier to befriend or court someone if you are gentle and trustworthy in what you say. Harsh words or negative comments are not refreshing to anybody's spirit.
- Use Wise Words--In a recent article I did, I wrote thoroughly on how to walk in wisdom. How to speak so that others will receive your words and apply them. Use words that will help, not hinder you.
- Be Humble--When you talk to anyone with a humble heart, they will feel that listening to you is worthwhile. Your words will come out gentle and your loved one will appreciate and reciprocate.
- Line Up Your Thoughts with God--If we know that God wouldn't say that, we shouldn't be saying that either. Plain and simple. We have to be mindful of what comes out of our mouths.